"Boys and men have a lot to gain personally from stopping physical and sexual assault. We will gain more caring and honest relations with women. Instead of experiencing distrust and disconnection, we may find closeness and connection. We will be able to take up a healthier, emotionally in-touch and proud masculinity, and we are less likely to ourselves be bashed or raped by other men." Yes, but, excuse me-- where does the sex come from? Isn't "risk" a turn on to women? So how can we ethically encourage men to be close, trustworthy, and safe?